Can't stand your dog after having a baby? You're not alone

A friend once told me, "After kids, dogs take a backseat," with a certainty that felt as inevitable as ageing. I was taken aback. My dogs were like my first children. How could a newborn change that? But three months post-baby, my Shepherd's once-adorable quirks became challenges. His food obsession, which I used to joke kept my floors spotless, now meant he’d knock over the baby to get to a stray noodle. And his penchant for shadowing us turned him into a constant tripping hazard. There were joys: cuddles, playtime, and my son's first gentle pats on our dog's head. Yet I battled anger, helplessness, and guilt every day. If you’re in the same boat, you’re not alone. In 2024, we surveyed over 1,000 new parents with pets. And it turns out there's a lot of frustration out there, but also cause for hope. Let's get into it. Having aversions to your dog? Some parents will find their bond with their dog grows even stronger once a baby's in the mix. But if you're one of the people furtively Googling these terms at 12 a.m., you're in good company: Here's what one Redditor confessed about their experience: "I thought it would never happen to me because my dog was like my child. I took him everywhere, took a million pictures, and I would even cancel plans just to stay home with him. After I gave birth, it all changed. It was like a complete switch. I didn’t even pet him for the first 2 weeks. I literally feel grossed out by him. Not only him, but all dogs." And for some of us parents, this aversion to pets can happen before baby arrives, too . Curiosity led us to survey over 1000 new parents with pets, uncovering a breadth of emotions towards their four-legged family members post-baby. Three ways a dog’s behaviour can change after a baby (survey results) The attitudes of new parents may not be shifting out of the blue; sometimes their dogs are actually changing! An overwhelming 97% of survey-takers said their dog's behaviour has shifted now that a baby is around. While some of that could be due to respondents’ own changing perceptions, it’s likely not all in their heads. Increased protectiveness Roughly 40% of respondents said their dog is "protective over the baby". This was also the case for Natasha Brereton, a ManyPets team member, and mother of twin baby girls plus a Shih-Poo named Nala. "Nala loves the babies,” she says. “She's their protector. At first she was really nervous, but I think she could sense there was a vulnerability there." Check out the full video here: At best, that protectiveness means great photos of your dog snuggling up to your baby during naptime. At worst, it could mean more aggression towards other humans, like if your pup growls when your mother-in-law approaches the precious infant they’re protecting. More clinginess If your formerly well-adjusted pup is suddenly sticking to you like glue now that the baby's here, join the club. About 38% of respondents noticed their dog exhibiting "increased clinginess/neediness" post-baby. Unfortunately, parents who haven’t yet figured out how to clone themselves are feeling stretched thin. Roughly 34% of parents surveyed reported “moments of annoyance or frustration with our dogs” due to “limited personal time,” and 26% of respondents reported having “trouble attending to [their] dog’s care and exercise.” Parents, your frustration is merited. But from your dog’s perspective, this new arrival means fewer daily walks, fewer spontaneous games of fetch, a precipitous decline in Starbucks pup cups…let’s just say their insecurity is understandable. Which brings us to another notable change. Jealousy About 36% of respondents reported that their dog seems to be more jealous of their pet parents now that the baby's around. Jealousy can be tricky to navigate, as it can result in aggression, a more disturbing temperament change that ~10% of respondents noticed. "I am more scared of my dog around the baby," one respondent admitted. "He gets super excited and wants all my attention when I'm giving my attention to the baby, and when the baby tries to touch him, he gets very skittish and shows his teeth." Unfortunately, survey results show that increased aggression is positively correlated with rehoming a dog. More on that later. When to call a professional immediately First things first, no dog should ever be left with a child unsupervised. Both children and animals can act unpredictably, even if they seem to get on well. But if your dog is acting out of character, then this can give even more cause for concern. Signs that your dog is feeling anxious or stressed by having a baby nearby include: If your dog is showing any of these behaviours around your baby, you must keep them separate and speak to a professional for urgent advice. What drives a new parent to rehome their dog? Quite frankly, I used to judge parents who'd rehome their precious Pugs and Malamutes once their baby was born. Now that I've been there, I get it. The typical reasons for rehoming a dog are varied, ranging from allergies to new jobs or even home loss. The responsibility of keeping a tiny human safe while still keeping your dog happy and healthy adds a hefty layer of complexity. So it stands to reason that parents who reported concerns about a “dog’s jealous behaviour” and “the baby’s safety around the dog” are significantly more likely to also report considering or following through with rehoming their dog. In fact, 73% of respondents who noticed signs of jealousy in their dog are “considering rehoming” or ‘intend to do so/have already done so.” And the number is even steeper for those who reported “concern about the baby’s safety around the dog,” about 80%. Unfortunately, it looks like this wasn’t a decision many of these pet parents expected to make. A full 52% of the pet parents who noticed signs of jealousy in their dog also reported it was "harder than they expected" to introduce their dog to their baby. So, does that mean some parents find it easier to introduce their dog to their baby? Yup. But what makes it better for some and worse for others? The data gives us a few clues. Why is the experience better for some new parents? Some folks have all the luck. While many pet parents report increased annoyance or even fear of their dog post-baby, many pet parents say the bond with their dog is better than ever. 40% say it was "easier than expected" to introduce the dog to their baby, and 44% say it was "about what I expected." "I believe having pets with newborns has made this experience chaotic in an amazing way," says one elated respondent. "The family is fulfilled”. Do these pet parents have some magical quality that makes them more resilient to change? Are their dogs miraculously chill? Or are there quantifiable factors that actually make it easier to integrate a baby/dog household? A realistic perspective Nearly 80% of respondents who found it easier than expected to introduce their dog to their baby reported a solid "no" to the question of rehoming. Those who found it more difficult than expected were 46% less likely to say the same. So could lowering your expectations and bracing for the worst be the keys to happiness? Possibly! "My doula prepared me years ago with my first child that I would change with my dog and become irritated and frustrated," said one parent. While it might be a stretch to say that seeing the glass as half-full is the key to dog/baby bliss, it’s vital to be ready. If you assume it’s all going to be a breeze, you might do less research and preparation—and be more shocked when things don’t go smoothly. Research and preparation Looking back, 30% of the overall respondents said they wish they had spent more time researching beforehand. Here's where most respondents reported finding advice and resources for integrating dogs and babies. The #1 most commonly cited resource? Consulting a vet (18.4%). (Good call, parents!) Here are some other resources used and steps pet parents took to ease the transition: There were no significant correlations when it came to how owners found resources. For example, struggling dog owners were just as likely to watch videos as more contented owners. But there was a correlation between general research beforehand and happiness later. Respondents who said it was "easier than expected" to introduce their dog(s) to their infant were less likely to report that they wished they’d "done more research and preparation" before integrating their baby with their dog, compared with 40% of respondents who found it "harder than expected." To drill down deeper, 30% of owners wish they’d prepared a safe space for their dog—away from their baby—before introducing the two. (FYI: preparing a quiet, safe spot for your dog to retreat to is a good rule of thumb for everyone, not just parents). More training and socialisation Early socialisation is key to a puppy's later success in forming relationships with both humans and dogs. So what happens when puppies don’t get that exposure during their formative months…or even years? The "COVID puppies" would like a word. According to research , puppies raised during the pandemic lockdown are more likely to exhibit signs of fear and aggression. While we don't know how many of our survey respondents had COVID puppies, it's noteworthy that 34% of pet parents overall reported that they wish their dog had "more/earlier training or socialisation" before meeting the baby. Does the dog's breed make a difference? While some breeds are lauded for being "amazing" with kids , research doesn't necessarily support the idea that some breeds are more kid-friendly than others. One study showed that breed can explain only 9% of behavioural variations between dogs. In other words, breeds you wouldn’t expect—like my German Shepherd—can be gentle and kind with kids. On the flip side, a dog with a seemingly kid-friendly pedigree might not get along well with children. It can actually be dangerous to assume that some dogs are "better" with kids. This mindset can lead to the assumption that some dogs will put up with abuse (pulling ears, etc.) that they actually shouldn't be subjected to. As one author aptly put it: “‘Good with kids’ doesn't and shouldn’t mean “will put up with all kinds of abuse without biting.” In our survey, it seemed there were two key elements that made a dog struggle to integrate with a baby: In the end, it was all about the attitudes and behaviours of individual dogs. Breed doesn't seem to make much of a difference in how well a dog will integrate with your kiddo. As you supervise their interactions, it’s important to keep that in mind. The science of postpartum pet aversion: why it happens We spoke to Dr. Rebecca MacMillan about the science behind pet aversion: "Pet aversion is certainly a possibility during the postpartum period. It can be a lot to deal with, the demands of a dog on top of the sleepless newborn nights and recovery from birth. The results of one study indicate that ‘among women who perceive maternity as a burdensome role, pet ownership is associated with an increased likelihood of having had postpartum depression symptoms’. It seems that if you’re having a tough ride with parenthood, your pet could be the straw that broke the camel’s back, leading to feelings of resentment. Alternatively, some parents may develop an aversion to their pet due to fears about disease transmission. A 2016 study explored this in pregnant and postpartum women (with babies up to 6 months of age) but found that in reality the level of disease contracted from animals was low at 4%. But animal-associated injuries are much more common, with 42% of respondents reporting this, the majority of which were caused by their own pets. This indicates that we may be focusing on the wrong things. While good hygiene is still crucial, reading your dog’s behaviour and reacting appropriately is just as important. Parenthood often forces your priorities to change, but remember that not all parents experience pet aversion. Everyone’s circumstances are different. But being prepared and knowing that it exists can help you act accordingly." The case for sticking it out (and how to make things easier) Over time, my Shepherd's behaviour around my child started to become more playful, shifting away from competition for food and attention. It helped that as our kiddo grew, getting knocked around became less of a big deal. So while it might feel impossible to balance your dog's needs with your child's, there is hope. And the overwhelming majority of pet parents we surveyed are planning on sticking it out. These things aren’t always in your control. But if you're looking for action items, here are some ways to make things a bit easier: Set boundaries Even the sweetest Golden Retrievers have (and deserve!) their limits. Introduce your dog to your child slowly, and make sure to keep those first few meetings brief, just in case your dog gets overexcited. Supervise every interaction—even if you're pretty confident in your pup. Buff up on dog body language Do you know what it means when your dog's hackles are raised? Was that a friendly tailwag or a warning signal? It's worth learning more about dog body language so you can avoid potentially dangerous situations before they arise. Reach out for help It's important to know your limits and be willing to ask for help in training your dog . Talk to your vet, research good trainers, and take the time to invest in your dog's behaviour training , and you'll probably feel much more confident with your dog around not just your child but other kids as well. Charity & welfare support Here are UK charities and welfare organisations that can help pet parents who may be struggling after having a baby (for example, with time, finances, behaviour issues, or temporary support). These organisations focus on keeping dogs and parents together where possible. The bottom line Our Shepherd eventually passed away. Our son probably won't remember him, but we are grateful for the time we did have to see them together. And overall, I'm so proud of our pup—at 15 grizzled years old—for adapting to and loving this new member of the pack. And I'm proud of us for (mostly) keeping our cool when things got a little hairy, literally and figuratively. (They’re dubbed “German Shedders” for a reason). Whatever you're feeling today as a pup-and-baby parent—overwhelmed, confident, happy, or stressed—remember that you're not alone. The key is to take a deep breath, remember that you're in good company, and reach out for help when you need it. FAQs: Managing a dog after having a baby What should I do if I’m struggling to manage my dog after having a baby? Changes in routine after a baby arrives can be challenging. Consider asking for help with walks, using a dog walker, or speaking to a qualified trainer or behaviourist. Is it normal to feel overwhelmed by my dog after having a baby? Yes. Many new parents find caring for a baby and a dog at the same time difficult. Adjusting routines and getting extra support can make things more manageable. Can training help if my dog’s behaviour changes after the baby arrives? Yes. Changes in routine, noise, and attention can affect dogs. Positive reinforcement training can help them adjust to life with a baby. Where can I get help if I’m struggling to care for my dog? Many UK animal charities offer advice, behaviour support, and practical help for owners who need it. When should I consider rehoming my dog? Rehoming should usually be a last resort after exploring training, behaviour advice, and other support options. How can I rehome my dog responsibly? Contact a reputable rescue organisation rather than rehoming privately online. They can help find a safe, suitable home.

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